Being an emotional person and leading with the heart can both be great qualities. Leaning onto our feelings allows us to be more self-aware and helps connect us to others.
But if we allow our emotions to dictate how we live our lives, it can lead to anxiety, depression, and even have a negative impact on our health and relationships.
As an empathetic person who used to feel things deeply, I have learned this lesson the hard way.
It really took me time to grasp the concept that all emotions stem from thought.
As a young man with low self esteem, I didn’t realize that my negative self-talk and sensitivity to others’ opinions were having a profound effect on my emotions and moods.
After years of faulty thinking about who I was and what I wanted in life, I find myself sitting lonely in an empty neighbourhood park in the freezing weather, (it’s December!) barely managing to type this down – waiting for the dawn and then the sun to shine it’s light upon the world and prove – “It’s a great day to be alive, to start something afresh”
At the time I had no idea that each negative thought was having a compound effect on how I viewed myself and my life.
The older and wiser me has learned to be very aware of my emotions and to check in with myself on several levels before allowing them to have the final say.
When I climb up on the ladder of becoming mentally strong, at the first step I would say being emotional is not really as bad as you think it to be because it shows your strength to share your feelings, what you actually feel from within, deep inside, with the persons you love, with those whom you feel comfortable with because sharing your thoughts and emotions is what makes you bring closer to your partner, isn’t it ? – What’s the point in having them around you, if you can’t share your emotions and feelings with them ?
But as I climb onto the next step of the same ladder, I get to see a more greater view, a new perception of being emotional. It’s true that other people’s words and actions affect us, but we also need to take responsibility for the emotions we feel in response to those words and actions. No one can make you feel anything; it’s always a choice.
Ultimately, it’s important to remember that you are not your emotions—you have the ability to decide if they lead you or if you lead them.
With my experiences, I now choose to lead my emotions and leave the stupid emotional sensitivity far behind!