Differentiating being hurt and being heart-broken.

Yes, I said that right.

There’s a whole lot of difference just between these two simple words that only a few people could understand.

Is it being hurt that makes you a better and a stronger person or is it being heart-broken that makes you so ?

Have you ever imagined the difference these two words have among them ?

No. you haven’t. Because maybe you’re not heart-broken till date. But the reality is, you haven’t faced those bad times in your life, those events that can put a deep wound into your heart as if you have been stabbed with a knife right away.

Being hurt is what each one of us has to go through in our every day lives, but being heart-broken is what a few people go through a few times in life. Yes, I mean it.

You get slapped by somebody, you get kicked in your tummy by somebody, you hear bad words at your back about yourself by your enemies or may be even the closed ones, somebody ditched a meeting with you – you say I AM HURT !

But have you ever imagined the pain of a knife being stabbed deep into your heart, which is not actually a knife but something which really cannot be described with so much of ease? Those feelings, those emotions, those devastating moments just cannot be described so easily, but the pain is real.  This is when you’re HEART-BROKEN.

Being hurt can heal you within hours or days or may be even weeks. But, trust me – being heart-broken takes months or years for you to heal and there are chances that even after you heal completely, that heart-wrenching unexpected event will still be afresh in your mind as if it happened only yesterday because this is something – you remember your entire life.

Being hurt may or may not teach you a lesson, but being heart-broken will surely teach you the best lessons of life.

Remember, it’s the words that hurt but it’s the actions that leave you heart-broken.


What it’s like being in the early 20’s ?

It is that time of your life, where on one side you feel your life is completely messed up and on the other side seems so lovely, beautiful and fascinating at the same time..

They say, maturity comes on achieving the age of 18, but it’s easier said than done!

Sure, everyone is mature in their own sense by the time they become adults, but the real maturity kicks in when you face challenges in life and by the age of 22 or 23 , I believe most of us have gone through quite a few challenges which show you the true meaning of life!

It is by this time, you realise life is not only about being happy but facing the bad times with positivity. You realise, optimism is the key to happiness..

It is by this time, most of us have had a very interesting phases of our relationships, we have been in true love which make us feel on cloud nine at some point but it is also by this time some of us have gone through real relationship challenges which can make you feel nugatory!

It is by this time, you start to accept the bitter truths of life..

You realise, your parents are also ageing and you feel the urge to spend quality time with your family!

You realise, you need to be independent of others, for it’s only you who is responsible for your own destiny!

You realise, you have grown up and are no more a kid!

It is by this time, you have to accept failure as a part of your life, no wonder how intelligent you are..

You start to worry about your career, your jobs and having a secure and happy future for your own family! You start to feel responsible towards life..

You meet new people on your journey, and you realise everyone you meet has some lesson in store for you..

Also, it is by this time, you feel the need to be a little adventurous about life..It’s all about time…

Our bad mental habits…

Our bad mental habits, cost us a lot more than we can ever imagine.

By bad mental habits, I don’t mean some kind of actual bad stuff, addictions or anything which you might be wondering, right now.

But, to be precise, the unhealthy beliefs..

The unhealthy beliefs about ourselves, the unhealthy beliefs about others and the unhealthy beliefs about the world…

We all live in this little space around us, which can either be beautiful or hideous, depending on our mental habits.

It’s common for each one of us to complain about our enemies, to get jealous of their success, thinking ‘Why do they have all the luck in this world ?’ . No matter how hard we try, we really can’t stop thinking that way, right? In fact, it can make you feel much better, if I am not wrong.

It’s okay to feel sorry about yourself, but it’s not okay to give those thoughts the power to let you down..

When you get belittled by somebody in your life,it’s okay to feel hurt, to cry out loud, but it’s not okay to give them the power to hurt you everytime. Maybe, they aren’t the best people on this earth ? – Nobody’s perfect though. Even you are also not.

We as humans, have got the power to control only one person in our lives and that is our own self. It is only when you truly love yourself, just the way you are, you’ ll be the happiest.

The only person, to whom we can compare ourselves is the person we were yesterday!

Things 2017 made me learn.

Okay, so it can be quite a difficult task to actually have to pen down what exactly did the year – which is coming to an end , made you learn.

But, as writing makes you feel good and lighter – let’s just do it , so that in the coming years when you look back, you’ll have a sneak-peek of what the past years have made you learn and have helped you grow and evolve as a better human.

So, shall we go ahead ?

Whilst, the lessons in life are never ending because our life is a learning curve! We all, as humans learn from our mistakes.

So here it goes..

  • What tops my list is that life doesn’t really go according to our plans. Yes, at the beginning of each year – you make plans, you make resolutions but how many of you have actually been able to achieve those resolutions in the same way as you planned it to be ? I doubt – not everybody does.
  • People come into your life for a reason. This year has taught me how to let go of people, feelings, friendships and so much more. Even though I still care , but I had to learn that you can’t force anybody to stay in your life forever. Even the close ones don’t stay forever!

Nothing ever leaves, until it teaches what you need to know.

– Pema Chodron

  • People change. They really do. Their personality switches as soon as they switch their environment.. and in the end, it doesn’t even matter to them!
  • The line – “Silence speaks louder than words” did make an entry into my life this year. I learned it’s better to have your mouth shut than to say something violent – which people will not eventually pay any heed to. There were times, when I just felt like screaming out loud – but it’s of no use, literally. Better not ruin your mouth for somebody else’s fault. Maintain your dignity.

  • Your kindness might sometimes get misunderstood for your weakness. Be careful.

  • Bad days will come, for sure. Learn to be strong enough to face them. Life’s a learning curve, isn’t it ?
  • The moment people get to know of your disabilities, all the focus tends to shift from your capabilities, your positive qualities to just the negative ones! Well, that is what you call the society’s way of thinking.
  • Tolerance. I learned to tolerate people. You can’t change anybody. You can only control yourself, your actions, your behaviours! All you can do is just being you. Let the world adjust.
  • Some paths – you have take alone. Learn to be alone. It’s really difficult. But we have got no choice, when the world turns it’s back towards us.
  • I used to be a negative person at times though, but circumstances and experiences made me see the positive side of everything.

There’s a lot more I have learnt, so I would only like to say that the list above is not exhaustive.

Now may I know what have you all learnt this year ?! 😉